Writing your own personalised wedding vows

Nov 19, 2019

I have been told by many wedding guests that their favourite part of a wedding ceremony is the vows. This is the moment when the marrying couple look each other deep in the eye, and make a commitment to one another that will last a lifetime.

The Marriage Act 1961, which outlines the requirements for a legally valid wedding ceremony requires the following wording to be said by the marrying parties.

I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take thee, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful wedded wife (or husband, or spouse).

 In addition to the above, many couples choose to write their own vows, to personalise the commitment that they are making to one-another. These vows are usually said immediately before or after the abovementioned legal vows.

The simplest method of writing vows is to start with one (or more) of the following sentence starters. Think about what is important to you as a couple, and what you commit to doing once you’re married.

  • I promise to…
  • I commit to…
  • I will always…
  • To make you happy, I will…
  • For the rest of my days, I…

When writing your own vows, you may wish to consider the following:

  1. Use your own language
    When writing your own vows, it is recommended that you use language that you would use day-to-day. You may wish to include nicknames, references or words that are personal to just the two of you. This will ensure that your vows are meaningful to you as a couple.
  2. If you want to make sure you’re on the same page, enlist your celebrant
    A lot of couples choose to keep their personalised vows a secret from each other until their wedding day, but also want to ensure they’re aligned in both length and style.  At Marry Us, it’s always a pleasure to help with this by reviewing both sets of vows (when requested, of course!)
  3. Personal vows don’t have to be boring
    If you are introducing an element of fun or humour to your ceremony, you may wish to integrate this in. It’s your wedding day, and your commitment to one another. If you want to publicly commit to listening to Nickelback for life, go for it!

My final tip, it’s your day, your way. Make your vows personal, meaningful and you do you.

Reference: https://www.ag.gov.au/FamiliesAndMarriage/Marriage/resources-for-marriage-celebrants/Pages/your-responsibilities-as-a-marriage-celebrant.aspx

Georgia Lutvey Brisbane Marriage Celebrant

Georgia Lutvey
Civil Marriage Celebrant

Georgia Lutvey, is a Brisbane based Civil Marriage Celebrant.