Five things I learned planning my wedding

Dec 3, 2019

When I got married in 2016, I didn’t realise just how much I didn’t know about weddings. I had attended many as a guest, but it wasn’t until I started the planning that I realised how much I had to learn. Here are some of my learnings.

A good photographer is worth absolutely every cent

 I quickly learned that the role of a wedding photographer is far bigger than taking happy snaps. They are the crowd manager (rounding up chatty Grandma), the timekeeper (making sure that you’re everywhere on time), the creative (getting the perfect shot), and the mood-setter (you spend hours together!). The styles of photos vary photographer to photographer, as well as the amount of editing they undertake. A good one will also be assertive in ensuring that you show your best side and perfect angle.

Wedding expos are great, but you need a method to retain the good stuff

If you want to meet hundreds of suppliers, but perhaps leave feeling a little overwhelmed, attend a wedding expo. My one piece of advice when attending is to separate out the flyers as you go; those suppliers that you want to look into further or book with, and those you won’t need. You could differentiate these by folding the corner of the flyer, or popping it in a different section of your bag. Otherwise, you’ll get home with fifty flyers/business cards, and have no idea who’s who.

You can have your engagement ring and wedding ring welded together by a jeweller

If you have an engagement ring that doesn’t quite sit flush with your wedding ring, you may find that your rings move around a lot and therefore aren’t comfortable. Additionally, if you have rings that have a ‘front and back’, they may spin around on your finger, not facing the front/same direction. Having my rings welded together has meant they’re always sitting flush and facing the same direction. It cost well under $100. Bargain.

It’s often cheaper to have a bar tab, rather than a drinks package. Disclaimer: This is subject to the venue pricing, as well as your wedding guests!

I calculated how much I expected each person to consume throughout the night, factoring in pregnancies/breastfeeding, big drinkers and those driving. I then worked out the costing based on prices, and it was significantly cheaper to pay for consumption rather than hours. Upon receiving our final bar tab bill, we had definitely made the right decision. Additionally, I spoke with venues, as well as friends and family, and this was their experience as well.

The ceremony can be personalised, it doesn’t have to be out-of-the-box

Call me naïve, but I didn’t realise that there were big differences between celebrants and the ceremonies that they perform. The majority of weddings that I had attended prior to my own wedding were in churches, and therefore, followed a very specific order of service. As I started to research ceremonies for myself, I realised that there are very few elements that are actually required, and if you select a marriage celebrant that offers personalised, tailored ceremonies, it can be all about you as a couple. This is something that we pride ourselves on at Marry Us. Less fluff, more of your stuff.

Georgia Lutvey Brisbane Marriage Celebrant

Georgia Lutvey
Civil Marriage Celebrant

Georgia Lutvey, is a Brisbane based Civil Marriage Celebrant.